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A message for caregivers  dealing with anger
By Patty Scahill

Part Three
As we discussed in previous articles, it is difficult be a caregiver. It can cause us to experience tremendous stress, coupled with anger and frustration. Identifying the emotions we deal with will help us to better understand and cope with those feelings. Most of us are "fixers".  When we are unable to change the situation, we can become frustrated. And frustration eventually leads to anger.  All of these are emotions we will experience as we walk through the daily process of care giving.
What we first must know is this. We are not alone. The Lord does see our situation and he hears our prayers. Psalm 103: 13-14 says, "Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him. For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust." What this verse of scripture means is this: The Lord is the God of compassion towards His creation. He created us, He knows us, He understands us, He is aware of what is going on in our lives, and of our shortcomings and mortality. One day this life will be over, but while we are here on this earth His desire is for us to know Him. In knowing Him we will experience His compassion and mercy, even if the situation does not change.
Does He understand our anger and frustration? Well, if He knows our heart and created us, yes He does. Webster's dictionary describes anger as a deep "feeling of great displeasure." When we add frustration into the mix, we will experience additional feelings of discouragement and defeat. As caregivers we are susceptible to anger and frustration simply because we want to see change. We want to see the person we care for becoming better. When it is long term caring and nothing seems to change we will experience these strong emotions. But, we don't have to live in them. We must recognize them and ask the Lord to help us deal with them in order to continue to be effective in our care giving.
This week let's examine our anger with the circumstances. The questions that arise out of the life we now lead. Why did this happen to our family? How could this have happened? This is unfair! It seems as though everyone can move on, but we can't and it's hard to understand! For sure it is and I can understand those questions, simply because I have asked those and many more! However, we must deal with the anger, once recognized and move past it, reaching forward to life that is still ahead. Living every day on this earth is a blessing that has been given to us by a gracious Creator. He can help us get past the anger issues, releasing them to Him.
Here is what helps me. Get alone by yourself for a few minutes. It can be in the basement while putting a load of clothes in the washer, or while taking a shower. You can pull over into a parking lot while running an errand. Take a minute for you! Look at the anger and all that is going on inside of you and talk to the Lord honestly because He already knows it anyway. Make this your prayer, saying, "Lord I am angry, I don't understand why this is happening and I am hurt that it is! I am angry and frustrated. I am asking you to help me. Help me Lord to give you the anger I am feeling and help me to release all of these emotions to you. I don't want to live in anger at the circumstances any longer. I want to live in your power and ask you to help me." Let the tears fall from your eyes and accept the strength of the Lord on your behalf. Believe me, you will feel so much better and there's nothing like a clean heart and tearful eyes before the Lord. And it is such a blessing for us to be free from the anger!  "They that sow in tears shall reap with joy."  Psalm 126:5.

No Matter what a person's thoughts are on Muhammad Ali, whether it is pro or con, you have to admit he brought the fight game back in what now many think could have been the best heavyweight division of all times. That-the experts will dictate.
Ali, for a big man was exceptionally fast and did have loads of talent. It was rare to see a heavyweight boxer like him. His footwork was superb and his hand speed was excellent was excellent and he fought the best, never ducking a fighter.
Locally, Kelly "The Ghost" Pavlik seems to have excited the local interest that has now expanded to the national level. The fight game could use such an opening.
Pavlik's latest win over a very tough Jermaine Taylor proved he could go the distance and did opening the eyes of the boxing world.
The payday's should come in big for Pavlik and as the old saying is said "He paid his dues." His popularity has sky-rocketed in the fight game and fans are ready to find out who his next opponent will be, we all are.
Carlos Monzon
One of the brightest boxers of the modern era was the talented Carlos Monzon. He was a middleweight who was one of the most devastating punchers in the game.
Where does he rank in the category as one of the great bangers of all time? He has a place among the best. He had a tremendous record in the middleweight division and his name is often referred to when talking boxing, as one of the best.
Monzon had a professional record of 89 wins, three losses and 61 knockouts and nine draws and one no-contest. He won the Argentine middleweight title by outpointing Jorge Fernandez in 12 rounds and defended his title 14 times and he also won a world title by knocking out tough Nino Benevenuti in the twelfth round. Monzon retired undefeated in 1977 and will go down in history as one of the best. When he beat Fernandez, that was for the Argentina championship before he beat Benevenuti.
One of the Area's Best
In a recent conversation concerning some local  fighters that made the big time, many are often over looked. One such fighter was one that fared well in the featherweight and the lightweight division was Warren's Joey Salcone. A many time Golden Glove champion and slick boxer with an excellent left hook, Salcone had a good professional record and fought some of the best in his division in Florida. One tough fighter he fought was the Cuban champion Echevarria. Salcone was one of Jack Thompson's early fighters and one who had a large following.
Another tough amateur form the Niles area who recently passed away was Joey Ramer. Ramer was an excellent fighter from the Niles Police A.C. and won Golden Glove titles. He had well over 50 fights and lost very few. Reamer was part of the Niles Police A.C. under Matt McGowan who gym left the boxing world was a member of one of the finest boxing stables in the country. Ramer also fought in the Cleveland Golden Gloves and fared well. In addition to Ramer was another tough fighter from the Niles area, Bill Bradley. Bradley was a heavy hitter and he too also had a lot of amateur fights winning over big time fighters and he too fought in several Golden Glove tournaments Bradley is deceased but his name comes to bear when talking boxing another one of Matt McGowan's fighters in the late forties and early fifties.